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September 10, 2010, 8:19 pm
It isn’t a disgrace not to reach the stars,
but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach for.
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Coaching Practice Tips:
Choices and Consequences
If you find yourself in conflict with those around you and/or rushed off your feet, the chances are that you have a few "open loops" in your life. Choices lead to consequences and things are healthiest when the choosers get the consequences of their choices. But sometimes it's not that way. Sometimes those consequences are dumped on someone who didn't get to make the choice. When that happens things are unstable and generally unhappy. The fix is to close the loop - to return the consequences of choices to the choosers. When they get to bear the consequences of their own choices, then they make better choices. It's fairer, healthier and happier all round. |  |
I'm always looking for better ways to get things across so I've dealt with this in a video; actually two videos to fit in Youtube's 10-minute video limit. You can find the series here:
Choices & Consequences - part 1
Of course, making the necessary changes causes problems in the short-term, and time and again in my coaching practice, I see folks telling me it's impossible to change, but it almost never is. So look hard, think outside the box and be patient and persistent - and you'll get there.
Or call me up for some help
Have fun with closing your loops.