Life Without a Purpose
Many of us lack direction in our lives. We don't
have a strong feeling of what we should be doing with the time
we have available. Annoyingly though - we often feel that - whatever
it is - it isn't this!
We might consider a new career - but with the huge
investment required, and the loss of the old one which pays the
mortgage, and no sense of certainty that we'll be any happier there
- we're reluctant to move. Like a donkey equidistant between two
carrots - we don't move towards anything with conviction, and so
Toiling away to make someone else rich is not
usually fun. Working for yourself to keep your head above water
is not fun. Flitting from thing to thing half-heartedly, to see
if it will make you happy is not fun either.
A Purpose Driven Life
What if you knew exactly, and with complete certainty,
what you wanted to do with your whole life? No ifs, no buts - just the
huge, comforting certainty that you knew where happiness, accomplishment,
fulfillment of potential and ultimate satisfaction lay?
Well, firstly - that's a huge comfort! It represents
the removal of all those angst-ridden doubts. You have a place in the
world which will always be yours. You have a home.
And secondly, I'm guessing that you'd invest all that
you have on your purpose. Your certainty about what you want - about who
you are - gives you strength and determination to take you through
the troubled waters between you and your goals.
And you'd enjoy that journey! No matter that
the path wasn't always smooth, or that the journey took a long time (I
guarantee - it will take all the time you live). Finally, you'd be happy
on your journey - not just pining for your destination. Because this
is what you want to do. This is what you're here for - and this
will thrill and inspire you for all of your days.
How Would You Feel
You Absolutely Knew Your Purpose?
Finding your Life Purpose
First the bad news: you can't Argos it! But anyone can
find their life's true purpose if they invest a little time and energy.
You have to look back into your
life and think about what you've done and how you felt and feel
about that. And you have to look out into the world
and touch your inner feelings about what you see. And you have to
look inside your self and learn some things about
what you see. Then you can look forward into your
future and find the one that is meant to be yours.
I did this about 8 years ago. It's why I left corporate
management after 17 years of being very good at it. Ever since then, I've
known what I'm here for. I have a four-word phrase (first word is one
letter - sounds like "sky"- personal pronoun
) - which tells me fundamentally who I am, and why I am on the planet.
It's a secret! But I'm glad I know it. As I look at what I do, I know
to what extent I am living on purpose. It is my guide and my
compass, and as I look back - I realise that it has been there all along,
but I didn't know it before. Now it's conscious I can be far more focused
in what I choose to do and how.
Life Purpose versus Life Goals
Often people don't know the difference between their
purpose and their goals, so let me explain that. Really, your purpose
is your highest level goal - it's the goal which all other goals serve. It's the goal of your whole life. The other "goals"
are smaller items which (hopefully) serve your purpose. So, for example,
if you had a purpose to get warm, then goals serving that purpose might
be put on gloves, wear a hat, light a fire, etc.
There is a useful analogy. Your purpose is like a compass
for your life. It always points the way. You may have to go around some
mountains, or even back-track now and then - but if you do - you'll know
it - and you'll always know how to get back on track.
So if you want a nice car - that's a goal which is serving
some deeper life goal. If you want a big house - same thing. If you want
to be prime minister - again - probably a goal and not a life purpose.
Life Purpose Examples
So let's take a look at some life purposes. These are
the things which will pop out of all that paperwork you'll be doing.
I am a
Oooh! Not the kind of thing
you were expecting, right? Strangely non-specific, and yet it
does have direction. Can you see how this purpose can
be used as a compass?
Someone with this purpose will be happiest in a life of giving
to others. They may consider careers in nursing, teaching, therapist,
and so on.
I Serve the Planet
|Again, pretty general - yet with a clear
direction. You're unlikely to be living on purpose
in this case if you're a stock broker, for example. But you
could be a forester or an MP in the Green Party. The owner
of this purpose will know far more about what it means to
them than we do here, of course.
I Show The Way
|This person is a natural leader. They can live
on purpose as company directors, national presidents, writers
- influencers of any kind. They are likely to be confident and motivated
by external accomplishment.
I Explore in Wonder
Wow! I love it - but what does that mean??
Well - for sure the purpose owner will know, but their purpose
has been distilled to the very essence of what they are about.
They may be mountaineers but they may also be research scientists.
They may also find their wonder in exploring musical composition,
or in raising children.
Are you surprised or even disappointed? Certainly, these
are not fully-fleshed out lifestyles, with income brackets, post codes
and children counts, are they? Your purpose is the core. The starting
point. It is not a goal.
Using Your Life Purpose
The reason your purpose is so valuable is that it is
the rock-solid foundation upon which you can build your life. As we saw
earlier, lack of certainty keeps most of us from investing heavily in
any particular direction. So when you have certainty - you can
use it powerfully to thrust your life along its chosen path.
And of course, as the owner of your purpose
- you'll know a great deal more about what's behind the four or so words
in your purpose. The groundwork you did to get here will have been very
When you have your life purpose, you'll begin to
see meaning and structure in the events of your life. You'll see
why you did what you did; which choices were wise and which were
less so. You can use your purpose as a yard stick to measure your
current situation and any plans you may already have. And of course,
you can use it to make new plans - and these plans will be backed
with your new-found certainty. You will implement those plans powerfully
- and you'll enjoy the process.
Is that something which interests you?
I have developed a program to help anyone find their
true life's purpose, called:
"Living On Purpose"
Here's a bit more about it.
Your Course Tutor
Throughout my life I've wondered about what it all meant. My search for meaning and for personal fulfillment is what took me into and then out of a life in corporate management, and into life coaching.
I know how hard and depressing the whole topic can be. Right now you're probably thinking: I just DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT - so how can he tell me? Or Oh, it's too late - I'll just hunker down where I am. Or Real people don't live wonderful lives - it's a myth.
My coach training and coaching experience have taught me that all of these objections are wrong, and that usually - what keeps us where we are is irrational fear. I know that - because I've lived it - and because I help people daily who are finding the courage to tackle it head-on. I can help you make things massively better.
Module 1 - Goals, Purpose and Identity
This module defines some terms then sets off on a journey through your life.
Your life to date contains a wealth of information about you. This module guides you through a data collection process, helping you to dig out the significant messages from a long, complex an sometimes hazy life.
We'll use a guided exercise to re-connect you with your past. This will provide us with the raw material from which we can pan out the gold nuggets which we'll eventually cast into your purpose.
Module 2 - Analysis 1
Guided exercises will help you to sieve essential nuggets from the life material we collected in module 1.
- Analysis 2
Guided exercises will help you to sieve essential nuggets from the life material we collected in module 2.
Module 4 - Putting it All Together
You'll write down your life purpose in this module. Taking the results of the analysis you did in module 3, you'll distill down and distill down until your simple, true purpose emerges in a single short sentence.
Module 5 - So What Now?
We'll look at your newly-discovered Life Purpose, and reflect on its significance throughout your life to date. We'll look forward to the impact you are going to allow it to have on your future. How that you have your compass - how do you want to travel?
You can take the course at your own pace, but we
ask that you complete it within two months. This gives enough focus
to maintain momentum and it means we can manage our resources effectively.
If you find the course is not helpful, you can
cancel between modules for a pro rata refund, based on the number
of modules received, but you must do this within the same two month
You will need an email address we can send module to,
and you'll need to be able to return exercises prepared on computer.
Courses are available in three variations to suit your preference and
This gets you access to the course material,
one module at a time. You'll get the lowest price but you're
on your own, so be careful to complete the exercises properly
and motivate yourself to get the best from the course.
You'll get the course modules, but you'll also have access
to a fully-qualified course tutor (usually the author). When you complete
your exercise, you can send them in for review by your tutor. If you've
missed a point or an opportunity, your tutor will email you and
give you another attempt. Of course, you remain in control - if you
want to move along anyway, that's fine, but this is a great way to
get far more from the course without spending heavily.
With the coaching support option, after each module, you
send in the work, then arrange a full phone coaching session with
your tutor to examine the issues arising from the module. Use this
time to present your "yes, but that won't work in my situation,
because..." type arguments. This is really the only way to bring
the magic of coaching into the mix.
If you're ready to find out what you're here for;
to find the confident of purpose which will form the foundations
of the rest of your journey to fulfilling your potential, just sign
up for the course, and we'll get started today.
Life Purpose Course
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by email within 60 days
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